The Black Hole Where Your Dreams Belong
Do you know a good deal about what you Don’t want? If so, beware. The gravitational pull of negativity is extraordinary, and you might well manifest your incredible power by attracting a nice fat black hole where your dreams belong.
This image occurs to me as I reflect on a conversation with a recruiter friend of mine. I’ve been running across quite a few folks who are having trouble finding operate, so I asked my good friend what, in his experience, was the chief barrier that kept otherwise talented and qualified folks from acquiring wonderful jobs. He didn’t hesitate for a moment before responding, “Negativity. They know a Great deal about what they don’t want and they can’t or won’t ask for what they DO want.”
As I think about this, I realize that our old friend fear is at the root of the issue. I know that when I’m afraid, one thing that makes me feel safer is always to have a laundry list of things to avoid. Not only that, but when I am afraid the last point I feel like doing is exposing my dreams and desires to feasible rejection or ridicule. The result? I become inarticulate about what I want and entirely focused on what is wrong with every opportunity that comes my way. It is human, it’s natural, and it hurts–a good deal. Nothing is lonelier than that black hole we produce ourselves.
What to do? What works for me should be to let the fear out inside the open. Cop to it. Air it with somebody I trust, release it in ritual or prayer, or work through it on paper or with my coach. It’s not a sin to become afraid, or even to become trapped in negativity. It is a shame though to stay there when there’s a whole world outside your black hole that is waiting for you to come out and play.
